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Tuesday, December 16, 2008: Dear Richard...

I am in a private war with myself from dawn to dusk. I do not want to compare my career with the career of anyone else because I'm not living their life, I am living my life. I do not want to compare my blog posts to the blog posts of others because they do not know what I know, they can not get into my head, or discern my heart, or recognize my fears, joys, pains and disappointments that hide within my soul. I like being my own unique self, and I have a question for you regarding the right-wrong squabbles that have been going on in the forums:

As a respected member of this community who is very dearly loved, what advice can you give new bloggers who are just starting out to help them find their own voice?

I have found mine and have been answering this question from a new writer's point of view. I would like to hear answers from people who have been around longer than I have. There is no "right" or "wrong" but there is inspiration waiting in the wings of your collective wisdom.

When did you know you had finally discovered your writing style (or unique voice)?

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Comment balloon 16 commentsC Tann-Starr • December 16 2008 07:43AM


My favorite Woody Allen quote is, "Eighty percent of success is showing up."  My opinion is to write whatever you are moved to write and the voice will eventually be heard.  I am not sure I have found any particular style.

Posted by Melody Botting, You Deserve The Best (Broker Associate PenFed Realty) almost 12 years ago

Hmmm...my first thought is to not comment on posts that will lead to an argument. I can remember as a newbie giving my two cents on a member's post about the BBB. It was my unique experience. Well...she shot me down pronto and said my comment was untrue. I never forgot it. She's no longer in this world, but I was not one of her fans. 

I don't write posts that are controversial either. I hate to argue cause I want to win. Growing up with an older brother will make you that way.

Posted by Lizette Fitzpatrick, Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes (Lizette Realty - Richmond KY) almost 12 years ago

Grip it and rip it.  Nothing more to it than that.  I've written about damn near everything under the sun with varying degrees of success.  Some are funny, some are a bit sad, some are personal, some contain cold hard Real Estate facts/data.  I have never once sought to write in any expression other than my own, and roundly distrust those who offer free advice ;)

Do your own thing.  It has served you well to this point, has it not?

Posted by Paul Slaybaugh, Scottsdale, AZ Real Estate (Realty Executives) almost 12 years ago

When did you know you had finally discovered your writing style (or unique voice)?

When I stopped caring about what anybody else thought. It happens to most women when they turn 40, btw. But I've always been a rebel, very independent, yet careful not to step on anybody's toes. Nowadays, I don't give a (expletive). I like who I am and if somebody else doesn't, there's something wrong with that person, heh, heh.

Elizabeth Weintraub Land Park Real Estate Agent in Sacramento

Posted by Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%, Put 40 years of experience to work for you (RE/MAX Gold) almost 12 years ago

C- As I have not been here very long, you might want to delete my comment.  I wouldn't be upset if you did, I routinely overstep my bounds...!

I have yet to find my writing style or voice.  I notice that its much easier to comment on other's posts.  Why?  I definitely have ideas and opinions of my own, but putting them into full posts on my blog is really hard for me.  Joining into an ongoing conversation about a topic interesting to me is just easier. 

Also, I think I spend a lot of time reading other people's blogs and commenting on them, then run out of time to post about a topic on my blog.

I have noticed, too, that I tend to write longer comments than a lot of people out here...is that wrong? rude? have I broken an unspoken rule about commenting/posting?  I don't know...I'm such a neophyte in this techie world...

Anyway, I'm looking forward to reading the comments of the many wonderful writers on AR and learning even more from them in response to your query.  Thanks for asking, CT-S!

Posted by Amy Salisbury, West Virginia Realtor/Jefferson/Berkeley (Leading Edge Properties) almost 12 years ago

Amy, I have written what some people consider "an entire post" in several comment sections on blogs (LMAO). It's your comment, sweetie. Make it. BTW, it takes a lot to make me delete anyone. ;-)

LOL @ Elizabeth. I do so love you. :-)

Paul, it most certainly has. I'm hoping to improve (LOL). Wonder what I'll "improve" into... ;-)

Lizette, I am the middle child and know exactly what you mean. (LOL)

Melodious, cool quote. I guess we'll be hanging out developing together. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago

As a newbie I'm still on the journey . . . what is interesting? - how to be concise and clear?  Informative yet amusing.  While I'm so passionate about what I do, how can I touch someone through words . . . way out of my skillset.  Glad I'm here so I can read and follow the lead of some of the best!

Posted by Margaret Oscilia, Home Stager, Salem Oregon (Creative Concepts-Home Staging and Contracting, Salem Oregon) almost 12 years ago

Carolyn, As you know I'm just starting to discover my style though I can't put a label on it, One thing I know for sure is that I am learning from the best bloggers in the world!

Posted by Barb Szabo, CRS, E-pro Realtor, Cleveland Ohio Homes (RE/MAX Trinity Brecksville Ohio) almost 12 years ago

Margaret, I second that. I'm following some of the best and brightest minds around like a love struck puppy (LOL). I love recreational reading in Club Chaos. Great fun. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago

Barb, Active Rain has got an awesome line up. I am also in love with Agent Genius. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago


The nice thing about blogging IS the fact that there is no right or wrong way...The perfect blog is one that provides safety to its readers, a welcome to all commenters, supporting and dissenting, and most of all a genuine expression of what is in the Blogger's heart...!!! Thanks,   Fran

Posted by Fran Gaspari, "The Title Man" - Title Insurance - PA & NJ (Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.) almost 12 years ago

Fran, very true. I think that's why I like taking that virtual jump into what ever is on my mind. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago

C - I'm with Elizabeth.  If you don't like what I say, just bite me!  But seriously - even though I'm a newbie, I don't feel like one anymore. I was scared to death when I hit the send button on Ralph's first "Real Estate Report."  But you know what?  It got a few laughs and made a few people feel better that day.  And that's what it's all about, isn't it?  Helping your fellow man?  The people here at AR are some of the warmest, nicest and friendliest people I have (and you will) ever met.  Just be yourself, say what's on your mind and write about the things that are real to you.  Laraine and Ralph

Posted by Laraine Shape, Selling Cincinnati...one kitchen at a time (Comey & Shepherd Realtors) almost 12 years ago

Ralph/Laraine, I am soooo with you on this one. Thank you for your kind words, they are very much appreciated. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago


Oops ....

I'm going to have to answer this next week! I have my Outlook set up so that all emails with "Dear Richard" in the subject go to a seperate folder! I then go through the questions there. Too bad, it's a great question and it will be first next week! Thanks, sweetie!

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) almost 12 years ago

Thank you, Richard. You've got a wonderful series, sweetie. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) almost 12 years ago

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