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Swimming in the Rain takes BALLS - deal with it...


My gal pal Inna Hardison ROCKS! I love plain spoken people. She was kind enough to make this  availale for a re-blog. Enjoy! :-)


A rather common way to teach someone to swim where I grew up was to throw the subject off the shore or a boat and watch as the child sank, terrified.  Some paddled their way out on the first try and were fine from that point on, others were pulled out by their ‘teachers' and got dropped right back in.  It was not a practice I condoned, especially when attempted on me, but it sure as hell made me desperately want to learn how not to sink.

In one way shape or form, at least in the era before ambassadors, most of us got sort of thrown into the waters of AR, and have been learning to swim ever since. 

There are those who intuitively navigated to the shallow end, where approval of some popular member was guaranteed to be within reach, and they have played in the Rain safely ever since.  There are others that took off the life vests and dived as deep as they could reach, gasping for air, at times, on the verge of drowning, and some indeed drowned.  Those I actually remember.

The ones following with one hand always extended to the shore line, with their bland yet always within bounds of propriety and the image of perceived professionalism posts or comments- not so much.  I don't know who any of these people are, but more importantly, I am not interested in finding out.  Plainly, I don't give a shit.

Over the last week or so, the featured dash board of this sea lit up with posts that rubbed many of us the wrong way.  Posts, with whose premise the majority of the professionals on here disagreed, and then, there was a counter point or two featured to add balance to the madness.  Some of these even devolved without corporate interference to bitch-slapping sessions and gutter talk, and a few people made themselves look like total jackasses.  Kudos to AR for bringing back a bit of that long lost luster of intuitive dialogue, of honest back and forth, of, at times, sheer fun.  Of course everything has its consequences, and the price of diving too deep while lacking adequate skill can result in drowning.  The members who take these dives are aware of it and take their chances. 

For those who sit on the shore and wait for someone to jump in to see if they swim the way that they approve of - get a life, or find the nearest remote control, and let the rest of us blog in peace.

My use of a few cuss words in this here post WILL NOT make you appear to anyone as a lousy real estate agent or mortgage broker.  You are the only one who can do that to yourself.  But to this here blogger - lack of courage and intellectual honesty will, as will your desire to make this organic network into something stifled.  We've been there, and it's good to have a bit of the old AR back.

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Comment balloon 13 commentsC Tann-Starr • May 28 2010 07:14AM


Thanks for reblogging this one, C!  I did notice the feature board this past week and was thrilled to see some of the spunk and fire that makes this place so great return!  I like everyone here but don't nessecarily agree with them -- that's okay!  They don't always agree with me either - that's okay too - we DEAL WITH IT!

Wake Forest NC House Chick

Posted by Leesa Finley, RED Properties - Raleigh NC Real Estate (RED Properties) over 10 years ago

I missed this one and it is great. Glad you reblogged C! Agreeing to disagree works for me. Read some of those great blogs mentioned. Love it.

Posted by Dick and Dixie Sells, Realtors, Tampa Bay Florida Homes For Sale (Sells Real Estate, LLC) over 10 years ago

Leesa freedom of speech and being honest if those individuals can not handle it then simply read the next blog :)~ laura cerrano

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) over 10 years ago

Aaron brought some fire to the rain, no problem here. I have many times disagreed with an author and made my opinion known, we all have our own opinions and should be able to disagree in a civil manner. No problem here

Posted by Gerry Michaels, GettysburgGerry Social Meida (Glasswork Media Arts) over 10 years ago

I had great fun over there last night.  Woo hoo!  AR is back and I love it.  Heading out for a busy day.  Can I hear another Woo hoo!!!  Love you girl!

Posted by Susan Mangigian, Chester & Delaware County Homes, Delaware and Ches (RE/MAX Preferred, West Chester, PA, RS152252A) over 10 years ago

Methinks this is going to be a fun week end (LOL) ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 10 years ago

I too agree to disagree C.  Thanks for re-blogging and AR is back and loving every day.  Have a great holiday weekend with the kids!!

Posted by Lizette Fitzpatrick, Lizette Realty, Lexington KY MLS - Kentucky Homes (Lizette Realty - Richmond KY) over 10 years ago

C...Having different opinions is normal.  Respectful disagreements are fine too.  Agreeing to disagree is what it is all about.

cosmic cow

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago

C-Tann - thank you thank you for the reblog and sweet words.  Here is to bringing a bit of the old spirit back:-)  xoxo

Posted by Inna Hardison, Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group (ha media group) over 10 years ago

Inna you are one kick butt chick - love it.  Brining the ole spirit back is a very good thing.....

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRS CRB, Phoenix Broker, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000) over 10 years ago

Inna - GREAT POST!  I love it and for the record, I'm a dive in the deep end type of chick (and have even been bitch slapped a few times for it).  For the most part, I don't give a rats ass what most people think of my brutal honesty and attitude (and I do have loads of it).  Some will like me and others won't.  Such is life.  Have a great holiday weekend Inna.  :)

Posted by Donne Knudsen, CalState Realty Services (Los Angeles & Ventura Counties in CA) over 10 years ago

Anna - thank you, thank you.  There was something pretty darn cool in that old spirit:-0

Donne - not giving a rat's ass is a big part of it.  I've yet to meet anyone universally liked, or hated, for that matter.  Just doesn't happen, so why waste your energies on pleasing those who don't get you, right?!  Thanks and good to meet yah...

Posted by Inna Hardison, Wordpress for Real Estate & Design, Print HaMedia Group (ha media group) over 10 years ago

C-  Umm, wow. I'm SO glad I never check the featured section. I just get a little surprise once in a while, when I get featured. But I have definitely noticed a turn toward the... well, what I consider to be less professional posts that are featured. I personally do not swear. I just don't. I prefer to search a thesaurus for a wide variety of words, lest I offend a potential customer. Now I am subscribed to you, and your colorful speech doesn't offend me, nor do I judge you. But there are some on here with which I absolutely want no association! To me, there's a difference between using colorful language that is amusing or adds something to the post, vs swearing just to be swearing.

When I'm writing a post, all I'm think is, is this appealing? Is it informative? Is it humorous? Does my personality shine through? Would I want to read it? Does it make the reader want to work with me? And yes, I started in the sink-or-swim days. I just jumped in. Fear was not a factor. As long as I don't come across as tacky (no class) or unprofessional, then I'll write it. If I'm unsure, then sometimes I'll go ahead and write it, and just mark it for Members Only. I like open discussions, without arguing. I hate debates! But then, I suffer from anxiety. So it doesn't take a rocket scientist to discern my reasoning!

To be honest, I disagree with many of the features posts that I stumble upon. I honestly don't understand why people can't just "share" their opinions and attempt to see from another person's point-of-view, without getting into a heated debate. I'm of the agree-to-disagree mentality. At some point, someone has to be the bigger person, show some class, and walk away. Arguing and debating don't change the mind of the other person. So what's the point? The same results can be accomplished by carefully choosing our words in a manner that "shares" our opinion, without inciting an argument.

But that's just my opinion... which is now rambling off topic  >.< 

Continue with your colorful personality. It suits you. If I was offended, I wouldn't be subscribed ;-)

Posted by Lisa Hill, Daytona Beach Real Estate (Florida Property Experts) over 10 years ago

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