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Life With Wee People: Of Heart And Hearth...


Carolyn Tann-Starr 2010

Life With Wee People: Of Heart And Hearth...

Kids have a funny way of making a house a home. They pick their favorite spots to play... They create hidey-holes for their little treasures. They decide shoes don't belong in the closet but lined up in the fireplace (LOL). I was tickled pink when Noah decided to kick his shoes off and place them in the same spot Stephen originally did when he first visited Lucy's home. The fact that Noah and Stephen sometimes think alike to the point where they mirror each other when they are apart amazes me. They're so different in so many overt and subtle ways, yet their being on the Autism/PDD-NOS spectrum has them wired together with an invisible silver thread. They have developed a complicated non-verbal system between them. Spend enough time with my kids and they will make you a believer in snatching thoughts out of the air by osmosis (LOL). 

If my therapist girlfriend was here she would start with this osmosis quote, "When the membrane has a volume of pure water on both sides, water molecules pass in and out in each direction at the exact same rate; there is no net flow of water through the membrane. However, if there is a solution on one side, and pure water on the other, the membrane is still hit by molecules from both sides at the same rate." Then she would tell you to create a kid analogy...

My quirky example: "Minionosis: When Little Minions engage in nonverbal communication skills using body language and subtle facial expressions to confound adults with wee people slight of hand to turn us into the boob-membrane that is blindsided because we as adult are always looking at the wrong kid (the one receiving the information to act) which makes it possible for us to erroneously believe their thoughts are coming from both sides at the same rate." Truth is, they are smart enough to understand the concept of smoke and mirrors if it gets them what they want (LOL).

There is a lot going on in those tiny little minds. The trick is finding a way to harness the power of quirky thinking (LMAO). You would be surpised at the whacked conversations I have with very smart people concerning my kids. Life With Wee People sometimes equals Blog Post Therapy, but I digress (LOL).

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The cool thing is the fact that my kids love photography, music and art. We are using that to get through to them and find out what interests they have. Stephen is really starting to get into dance. He is a ball of motion and I hope to find some sort of movement centric activities for him. Noah does not respond the same to step, jazz and tap dancers the way Stephen does. We've been using Netflix and the Amazon Unbox to keep shorty occupied with a flow of body motion. Dude loves to stomp so I think step and tap dancing may be in his future. For now, the piano lessons will have to do (LOL).

Noah is usually the calm child who lives in YouTube and Facebook, periodically giggling over ActiveRain and embracing electronics. Stephen is the Minion Blur who delights in participating in social media events, is curious about the electronics that make it all possible and habitually engages in their ritual sacrifice (LOL). That kid will disassemble, destroy, push buttons and/or run circles around you all day if you let him. He appears to be very curious to see how things function on the inside (LOL).

If he cant get it open then it must be destroyed or become the focus of a three year olds scientific experiment (LOL). He likes cause and effect. He always wants to know if something will float (LMAO). Do you know he even made an attempt to drown my Nikon in Lucy's toilet during a bathroom break? Had the nerve to announce "green toilet" while snatching up my camera sitting on her sink (LOL). Shorty has a one track mind so keep track of your cell phones when he is around. You may also want to hide your car keys because he thinks he can drive (LMAO). That may be my fault because they go off roading in the minion fields in SC. ;-)

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We had to hide the remotes from them because they were really starting to make themselves at home. I knew it was time to drag them outside when they decided they were ready for their power nap and dived into one of Lucy's beds. That was a Cosmic Cow Pie moment (LOL). Seriously so (LMAO). We were giggling like mad while hanging out downstairs and I can not remember the last time I've seen them looking so pleased about taking a bed over.

Ever try to throw two kids out into the sunshine when they are in love with staying inside a beautiful house? It is not as easy as you may think and I was cracking up trying to negotiate some hiking time with the Little Minions. In the end, I dragged them outside for some fun in the woods when I realized they had no intention of leaving peacefully (LOL). When they are relaxed and enjoying themselves they can be stubborn. I bribed them with some M&Ms and put them to work. We played pass the Nikon and got some really cool shots while wandering through 28 acres of gorgeous land. ;-)

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My kids are fascinated by textures and tiny, subtle details. They are visual, hands on learners and absolutely love this place. There is so much to see and do here. Our next visit to Maryland will probably be to see the tulips. My kids were crawling around Lucy's place looking at twigs, weeds and mushrooms as if they were the next best thing to Hagen Daz (LOL).

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Noah took this really cool picture while Stephen conducted scientific experiments nearby with twigs (LOL). I figure we should do the Brooklyn and Queens Botanical Gardens after school today and next week to keep them interested. I shall blog about it later. They may not want to go. More sleep seems to be on their agenda and I have no idea what wee people attitudes I shall be introduced to today (LOL). ;-)

Noah took a lot of really nice pictures in Maryland that we will share with you later when the boys get home. They have yet to pick their fave shots for my blog so I am going to throw something in draft for them to play with later. Every time Noah hands me the camera back I find myself hearing him silently ask me, "Do you see what I see?" Noah's photo collection is turning into a really cool picture book. We are still collecting eye candy for our workbook pages and I have him working on labels. Now that the weather is getting really nice we may be floating up and across NY state to do a lot of Localism posts. He likes that idea because good food is always involved (LOL). We can be in the middle of crossing the street and little dude will stick out his hand and say, "My camera?" then start pointing while instructing me to go "over there." (LOL)

That is all it takes. Two little words to get us started running amok until sundown. When Stephen sees something he likes he immediately chirps, "Go there?" and leads the way like the bossy three year old he can be. More often than not we simply go (LOL). i am quirky that way and my kids keep my ADD very happy. :-)

Autism is a quirky condition that researchers have been chipping away at for a while and I have been struggling with daily since the shorties were diagnosed with their learning issues. According to Wikipedia: "Autism is a disorder of neural development characterized by impaired social interaction and communication, and by restricted and repetitive behavior. These signs all begin before a child is three years old. Autism affects information processing in the brain by altering how nerve cells and their synapses connect and organize; how this occurs is not well understood. The two other autism spectrum disorders (ASD) are Asperger syndrome, which lacks delays in cognitive development and language, and PDD-NOS, diagnosed when full criteria for the other two disorders are not met."

Anything that gets my kids talking always captures my complete attention. The fun thing for me regarding Mr. Autism and Mr. PDD-NOS is the fact that their ability to see and think differently has enriched my ability to understand and embrace the quirky things in life. I am determined to have fun with them every single day because my guy pies can be mad fun if something captures their imagination. I cant imagine life without my wee people (we all know how easily amused I am - LOL). Every single day is a strange adventure for them that they share with the rest of the world. The two of them really get each other. Its the rest of us trying to get up to speed. They don't see eye to eye with the average person and make going to work mad fun in the mornings when we start our day by collecting brokerage keys (LOL). I have no idea what to expect except to expect the unexpected when I am running with the shorties (LOL).

If you only knew what went on today regarding their latest protest (LMAO). Every time Mike and I turned around they were curled up in the fetal position trying to go back to sleep when not protesting (a) getting up, (b) showering, (c) brushing their teeth, (d) combing their hair, (e) wearing clothing, (f) having breakfast, (g) finding their book-bags, (h) carrying their book bags, (i) walking... (LOL).

It took me 15 minutes just to get them on, then out of the elevator. My neighbors had to help me because Stephen was in rare form. They didn't want to go to school and were acting as if they'd miss something if I made them. We then got stuck in traffic because of an accident so I missed my first appointment. I rescheduled the second and was late getting them to school. That made me cranky because my tank was hovering near E. Called Mikey to complain about him not gassing his car. The kids wanted the blue one since they took the yellow one yesterday. We actually have wee people arguments in my garage about which vehicle to take (LOL). We shall have to chat about that later. The conversations and logic behind some shorty requests can be mad funny and mind boggling (LOL).

Being quirky and a wee bit irritated about missing my keys I then decided to reschedule my entire day (LOL). I didn't want to chase the broker who was in the field plus the maintenance people may be going on strike on  April 20th. We are talking union workers, which means this may affect people citywide. I have things that need to be done to my apartment so I am going to Home Depot to get started on the next Spring project.  Will we be having fun later? You betcha! My kids always insist on participating if paint is involved. There will be lots and lots of paint involved.

This is why people like me need a stager. If I do it, it is going to be colorful, fun and messy because my kids keep writing on the walls (which need to constantly be covered) and I am known for painting the walls so they match my paintings (LOL).


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Comment balloon 9 commentsC Tann-Starr • April 12 2010 12:29PM


My grandmother would say: "They didn't lick it off the bricks"  Which is the Brooklyn version of the apple doesnt fall far from the tree!

Posted by Robert Rauf (HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ)) over 10 years ago

My grandmother would say: "They didn't lick it off the bricks"  Which is the Brooklyn version of the apple doesnt fall far from the tree!

Posted by Robert Rauf (HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ)) over 10 years ago

LOL @ Robert. That would make a really cool blog post title. ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 10 years ago

Carolyn, Love the terminology - minionosis indeed!  And how cool that you really enjoy your wee ones as much as you do - I enjoy hearing about their exploits.

Posted by Susan Brown (Keller Williams NE, Kingwood Texas (Humble & Atascocita too)) over 10 years ago

Thank you, Susan. It's so much fun sharing them. My family and friends keep up with us right here. People sometime start fussing if I slack off with the shorty updates (LOL). ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 10 years ago

I just noticed that your blog is called "wordy C's blog"

That is LOL!  (and OHHH so true!) 

Posted by Robert Rauf (HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ)) over 10 years ago

C ~  So much Love shines through this post.  Nothing but good...you are showing your minions the way and us! 

 Loved this part   "That was a Cosmic Cow Pie moment (LOL)."  I am working on a kids workbook with the concepts.. of SWSWSWN, Drama hook, Build a bridge, It's not my monkey, Managing the Mess, Plan B... for pre-school, elementary and middle school... mmmmm just thinking....

Cosmic Cow

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) over 10 years ago

Little people always have their own personalities, but brothers and sisters will always have common traits no matter how different they are from one another.

Posted by JL Boney, III, Columbia, SC Real Estate (Coldwell Banker) over 10 years ago

LOL @ Robert. ;-)

Carra, I bet your kiddie book will be mad fun. :-)

JL, I think that is so true. My kids are quirky and make me laugh all the time, especially when Stephen does something that Noah did when he wasnt around and vice cersa. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) over 10 years ago

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