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Wordy C: My Cow Pie Is Bigger Than Your Cow Pie! Is Not! Is Too! Nope-nah! Uuh-huh!

Carolyn Tann-Starr 2009


My Cow Pie Is Bigger Than Your Cow Pie! Is Not! Is Too! Nope-nah! Uuh-huh... Yeah, it is. No it aint. Bite me... 

Today's Cow Pie Talking Point is ANTITHESIS. Antithesis is simply an opposing argument. Had I titled it that you wouldn't be curious to see where this is going (LOL). We are going somewhere a few of you may not want to step so get real comfy because Wordy C is in the house and Cow Pie is about to be served... ;-)

Ever watch a social media spat across cyberspace? It can be mad fun watching your sociology class come to life. If you are really careful you can map a time line of theories by collecting and rearranging the comments to reflect who is pro and con on the subject being debated. Can't collect this stuff willy-nilly. You really have to pay attention to who is talking to who (parallel, primary conversations) and who is reacting to who (secondary, spin offs who don't follow the entire thread, just pick a line of reasoning and/or a person to support or attack). You can't have fun while learning something if you don't pay attention to the players spinning the game. All players have a strategy. It doesn't matter what line of business you are in or what the product is that you are selling. When writers start writing it is because they have something that they want to share with you. Period. From the absurd (arguing about cow pies while trying not to step in other people ____ ) to the sublime (proving string theory and the existence of God).

Social media is a game. Don't let anyone fool you. It's a tool to advance your agenda and agendas can encompass anything you like. Doesn't have to be serious. Doesn't have to be fluff. It just has to be you looking to dialog with another person in a way that they can relate to what you are advancing. Weapons of mass destruction? Staplers and restraining orders? The subject isn't the game. The presentation of the subject is the game. If strategy, diction, professionalism and prose make you feel better, feel free to substitute those words or the words of your choice but don't ever forget interpersonal communication skills are personal choices we make to convey what we intend to convey.

I like thinking of blogging as a "game" because gaming requires fluid thinking and multiple levels of skill and strategy. It's dynamic. It's organic. It never stays the same. The military plays war games to prepare the troops for the reality of battle. Bloggers play writing games to stimulate dialog while showcasing their points of order they wish to present to the reader while taking the reader on a journey down a path of thoughts we'd like them to explore. The best writers are the ones who are transparent. They are the ones who can find a way to make their cat's litter box a relevant analogy to the state of the economy with such a natural flow you don't blink an eye when you get to the end of their prose. 

Blogging is a bloodsport. Heart, sweat and tears go into being transparent because we take a huge risk in exposing our inner selves in the context of another person's perception of reality. Writers are attempting to create a meeting of the minds. If we do our jobs well you may laugh or cry. You may agree or disagree. You may rant or rave. If we do our jobs well you will respond by initiating dialog with your friends, family, share the link, leave a comment, subscribe, etc... If we do our jobs right you will return again and again although you may never leave a comment... 

Writers expose themselves by what they do and don't say. Can't fake truth. Can't teach funny. Can't hide mean. Can't duck the consequences of your actions (and on occasion non-action when a response is required). 

What is in a person is going to come out one way or the other. Stick around cyberspace long enough and you will soon realize when someone is being serious, teasing, trying to make a point, share an idea or is just determined to spend their days pushing a button. These things are not mutually exclusive. You can have it all in one blog post or a series of missives (LOL).

If you are lucky you will subscribe to writers that hone their craft and grow. If you are unlucky, you will find yourself wondering why you keep coming back for more of the same crap you thought this person was over and done with. After all, they said they were done with it... yet some people don't know when to let a subject go. I see that in a lot of people who digitally foam at the mouth when responding to religious and/or political posts (LOL). It's like they go trolling for trouble because they have to have an argument to prove they are better or right rather than the other person.

My kids are learning disabled and they are monitored for milestones. Sometimes, they age out of a program when they reach a certain point in their young lives and/or development and we, as parents, have to enroll them in something more appropriate in relation to their level of functioning. When I wander around cyberspace I find myself routinely comparing grown people to my wee people because I respect the process that allows me to manage them.

Applied Behavioral Analysis is a beautiful thing. Everyone human fits the profile because we all have points of leverage that can be triggered to influence us (LOL). Hang around a bunch of therapists long enough and you will start incorporating their way of thinking into your blog posts. ;-)

You'd think experienced bloggers would be "aging out" as their craft matures. For the uninitiated: aging out is the theoretical process delineating when and how individuals reduce the frequency of their "offending behavior" as they age. ABA is all about self corrections and rewarding socially acceptable behavior. Socially acceptable behavior has a pretty wide spectrum and no one has cornered the market on it's predominate culture or intercultural ramifications.

Social media fascinates me in this respect... So does spoofing about Cow Pies because we all know it's just a politically correct euphemism for "Bullshit" so why pretend one word is more correct or socially palatable than the other? If you are conveying what you intend then all else is an illusion, a fallacy, a bit of sophistry from someone else who wants to change the meaning of your work and dilute your words from being a pithy, relevant remark to bland milk toast imagery.

You don't have to be evil to say what you mean, you just have to be honest enough to mean what you say. It has been my experience that most people recognize and know the difference even if they don't like or agree with you every single day. At least we respect each other enough to come back and try to have new conversations. That is the fun of blogging. Never knowing what you're going to get and never knowing what you are going to share until you have the nerve to go there...  

One should always blog like a child seeking to age out and experience a new adventure. One should also be careful not to step in other people's cow pies while fertilizing the blogosphere with their own organic material (LOL).

This concludes our Cow Pie lesson for the day. Until our next organic adventure, play nice in the electronic sandbox people. ;-)

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Comment balloon 15 commentsC Tann-Starr • August 27 2009 11:14PM


OMG... you really know your shit!  I am so happy to see you here and telling it like it is!  Your prose is like poetry!  I loved reading every word.. I was memorized by your depth of honesty and truth about EVERYTHING!  Thanks for being here and that is NOT bull shit!  My favorite part of course.. the Oreo cow pie picture!  Do you think this qualifies for the crap award? 

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) about 11 years ago

There's a crap award? OMG - sign me up! That sounds interesting! (LMAO) ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 11 years ago

The message I am hearing is "cut the crap" and don't be afraid to express your opposing opinions.  Don't be afraid to express yourself, just be kind in how you express your opposing views.

Posted by Charles Perkins (Charles G. Perkins, CPA) about 11 years ago

Charles, you have squarely hit that digital nail on the noggin. Thank you for the awesome summery. ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 11 years ago

I get it...... Just be your NICE self

Because it's ok to be your public self

Posted by Jody Keating, Broker/MM/Realtor, Bryan / College Station, TX (Jody Keating Connective Realty,LLC, Bryan/College Station,TX) about 11 years ago

Yup, yup, yup. Very true Connective Realty. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 11 years ago

Whew!  I'm glad I went to the bathroom BEFORE I settled in to read your post, Miss C.  That was quite wordy!  :)  Very eloquent, pithy and all that.  What's great about blogging is that you can always find people who agree or disagree with something.  It's all in how you present it, right?  I think the cow pie analogy is a much wittier and fun way to say what we all know you mean without coming right out and saying it.  Presentation!  There are two sets of people who listen to Rush Limbaugh: those that love him and think he can do no wrong and those that loathe him and want to find that next "I can't believe he just SAID that!" moment.  No matter who is listening, they all are listening.  Isn't that what blogging is all about?  (By the way, for the record, I am NOT a Rush Limbaugh fan and do NOT listen to him.  Tried it.  Didn't like it.  Same goes for Howard Stern.  Point is: I DID try to listen to both and stopped when I just couldn't stomach it.)  Love the wordiness, Miss C.  Keep it up.

Posted by Heather Chavez, Real Estate Virtual, Assistant (928) 692-3235 (Second Self Virtual Assistance) about 11 years ago

Heather,  I have learned something VERY important from you today.. this is my 6th day at activerain and I was trying to figure out who I am and what my voice should be... I realized I should have have spelled out SH** or BS should have been BS... in my response to Miss C..   I got confused with all the ruckus going on at


I thank you...

And Miss C.. I went back to the above rain jack where I met you and found the term "crap points' in comment 72,73,74 and 114... I have no clue where they come from or who gives them.

thanks to you both for the learning curve!

Carra Riley CRB, CRS, GRI aka Cosmic Cow Pie

Posted by Carra Riley & Declan Kenyon, Helping people Transition at all ages! (Brokers Guild Cherry Creek Ltd) about 11 years ago

C Tann, Cow pie is cow pie and this has it piled pretty high in a way to just get the point about being honest and ourselves. But it was a tough read for a Friday just before I shut it down for the night.

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 ) about 11 years ago

Oh C...can't help thinking of the ones who have unsubscribed to your blog. Clearly they have not a clue what they are missing! Awesome post that clearly says...If you don't like the truth...Bite Me!

Posted by SarahGray Lamm, Realtor - 100K Hours of NC Real Estate Experience (Allen Tate Realtors Chapel Hill, NC 919-819-8199 ) about 11 years ago

Exposing inner self is the essence of a human being...being a human being. Granted I'm not going to tell what I do behind my closed door (except ours is open haha) but I will be .....me.

Featured in PAWS :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 11 years ago

LOL @ Heather. I've learned to warn people up front when Wordy C is making an appearance (LOL). Thank you for the kind words. Very much appreciated. :-)

Carra, I still giggle every time I think of that term or run across it and TLW at the same time (LMAO). This place is MAD FUN, isn't it? ;-)

Ed, I thank you for sticking it out (LOL). Wordy C can be a handful (LMAO).

LOL @ SarahGray. :-D

C-Sally-C, thank you for the PAWS feature. Very much appreciated. :-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 11 years ago

There are many different voices here in the Rain.  The important thing is that you get yours heard.  Be yourself and you'll never go wrong.  I think that's the gist of the whole thing, isn't it Miss C?

Carra - That was a very sweet thing for you to say.  Thank you.  Welcome to the Rain.  Enjoy the ride.

Posted by Heather Chavez, Real Estate Virtual, Assistant (928) 692-3235 (Second Self Virtual Assistance) about 11 years ago

Oh, and Carra, don't ever be afraid to raise your voice here in any way you deem necessary.  You can't please everyone all the time.  And, that's quite alright.  Right, Miss C?

Posted by Heather Chavez, Real Estate Virtual, Assistant (928) 692-3235 (Second Self Virtual Assistance) about 11 years ago

Heather, you are a dear.

Carra, listen to Heather. She's got it going on. ;-)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 11 years ago

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